"The sudden disruption caused by the pandemic has given us a glimpse: it's not that because they put us on a wheel, all we can do is turn."
It happens at work, but it can also happen in the family: we find ourselves turning because "it has to be done", because "there are the musts", because "otherwise what did you study to do?", because "you wanted it" and , perhaps, in the meantime we have lost the meaning of those choices.
The risk is to go from "let's hope it goes a certain way" to "it went like this". And in the meantime we have lost the sense of what we are doing.
This point addressed by Riccarda Zezza struck me a lot:
The choice that is always and in any case within our reach is to decide how much of us to bring into our work
or what sense to give to the things we are doing, even the smallest ones, and that can motivate us in our daily lives.
And how to regain possession of this ability to choose? By moving the famous locus of control from the outside, i.e. when we attribute power and control to others, such as the employer, the company, etc., to internal, i.e. ourselves.
(The Locus of control can be found in episode 10, I leave you the link to spotify )
If on the one hand it can be tiring to take back responsibility for that job, for those choices, on the other it is our super power.
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